Comments on: feeling not so good http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/ Just my thoughts Wed, 16 Jul 2008 06:09:47 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: stinger http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-49 stinger Wed, 06 Feb 2008 15:29:41 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-49 Go to http://skzworldofdreamz.wordpress.com She is divorced and is a single mother to a little girl. She is a Pakistani Muslim living in the US. Maybe she would be able to tell you a thing or two... Go to http://skzworldofdreamz.wordpress.com

She is divorced and is a single mother to a little girl. She is a Pakistani Muslim living in the US. Maybe she would be able to tell you a thing or two…

]]> By: sillybachi http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-43 sillybachi Tue, 05 Feb 2008 22:02:28 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-43 Salams Amal, Sorry for not visiting earlier...been a little busy. I am so so so sorry to hear about these decisions you have to make...nobody should have to do this, but if you feel that you will be a healthier and happier person without him and that your daughter will be as well, then you are probably doing the right thing. If he's abusive (mentally, physically, emotionally) then you definitely need to get out as soon as possible. The only thing I will advise you before doing anything is to pray Istikhaara A LOT. It will definitely give you peace of mind and make your heart stronger, and will let you know if you are making the right decision. Believe me. This is definitely a big step..if you need anything or need to talk please email me. I pray that you find peace. Salams Amal,

Sorry for not visiting earlier…been a little busy. I am so so so sorry to hear about these decisions you have to make…nobody should have to do this, but if you feel that you will be a healthier and happier person without him and that your daughter will be as well, then you are probably doing the right thing. If he’s abusive (mentally, physically, emotionally) then you definitely need to get out as soon as possible.

The only thing I will advise you before doing anything is to pray Istikhaara A LOT. It will definitely give you peace of mind and make your heart stronger, and will let you know if you are making the right decision. Believe me.

This is definitely a big step..if you need anything or need to talk please email me.

I pray that you find peace.

]]> By: Maryam http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-38 Maryam Tue, 05 Feb 2008 01:55:53 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-38 Stinger .. I completely disapprove your thoughts about Amal. You arent suppose to judge anyone, without actually knowing them completely. Would you like anyone talking nonsense about you ? Stinger .. I completely disapprove your thoughts about Amal. You arent suppose to judge anyone, without actually knowing them completely. Would you like anyone talking nonsense about you ?

]]> By: Bubbles http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-37 Bubbles Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:19:04 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-37 Well said Amal. There you go Stinger... if you knew Amal and the genesis of her situation, you'd know she's tried very hard at keeping her marriage together. This is her last resort. And may Allah make it easy for her. Well said Amal. There you go Stinger… if you knew Amal and the genesis of her situation, you’d know she’s tried very hard at keeping her marriage together. This is her last resort. And may Allah make it easy for her.

]]> By: benevolence85 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-36 benevolence85 Mon, 04 Feb 2008 14:30:28 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-36 bubbles thank you so much for your kind words and support , I am fine alhamdullah stinger - I dont know what type of woman you think I am , but it is certainly not the image you have of me in the head , do you think I am some weak minded cant help myself type of woman ? , and who the hell said my life will crumble down !? , it only crumbles if you allow it . I need to get real and be honest stay married and constantly stresed and have my daughter see that every day ? , or get my husband to have a second wife and get of my case , is practically the same as being divorced . Stinger you have never been marired gte real , I dont even think its healthy for children to see unhappy marriages , I pray every day for my daughter that she marrys and stays happy I do not want her to go through what I am going through . self sacrifice has limits , being in unhappy relationship is simply not fair and I dont wish it on anyone even my own daughter . Alhamudllah islam has allowed that and given the freedom their no compulsion , I have had a long thoght abt it . bubbles thank you so much for your kind words and support , I am fine alhamdullah

stinger – I dont know what type of woman you think I am , but it is certainly not the image you have of me in the head , do you think I am some weak minded cant help myself type of woman ? , and who the hell said my life will crumble down !? , it only crumbles if you allow it .
I need to get real and be honest stay married and constantly stresed and have my daughter see that every day ? , or get my husband to have a second wife and get of my case , is practically the same as being divorced . Stinger you have never been marired gte real , I dont even think its healthy for children to see unhappy marriages , I pray every day for my daughter that she marrys and stays happy I do not want her to go through what I am going through .
self sacrifice has limits , being in unhappy relationship is simply not fair and I dont wish it on anyone even my own daughter . Alhamudllah islam has allowed that and given the freedom their no compulsion , I have had a long thoght abt it .

]]> By: stinger http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-35 stinger Mon, 04 Feb 2008 12:43:50 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-35 Bubbles: This woman thinks she is doing what a perfect Muslim is supposed to do. If I know anything, a perfect Muslim is to prefer others over him/herself. :@ And there she is breaking away her marriage. This is the saddest sight I can imagine in the world. This woman has taken major non-conventional steps in her life. If she goes on to undo them, she will one day want to undo them all... What I'm saying is for her sake as well. Its best for her if she remains in her relationships, else her world would fall apart. Bubbles: This woman thinks she is doing what a perfect Muslim is supposed to do. If I know anything, a perfect Muslim is to prefer others over him/herself. :@ And there she is breaking away her marriage. This is the saddest sight I can imagine in the world. This woman has taken major non-conventional steps in her life. If she goes on to undo them, she will one day want to undo them all… What I’m saying is for her sake as well. Its best for her if she remains in her relationships, else her world would fall apart.

]]> By: Bubbles http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-34 Bubbles Sun, 03 Feb 2008 22:51:00 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-34 Salams Amal.. love your new blog! Sorry I haven't been a good friend, I didn't write you as I promised, but a lot of things have been going on with me. You've been in my heart and prayers, I want you to know that. IT's true life is full of ups and down, with the sweet comes the bitter. It's what we do when the 'bitters' come around that tests the stuff we're made of. People will give you all sorts of advice. All I'll say is to do lots of Istikharah, Insha 'Allah, He'll see you through. You know what you're going through, YOU know where the shoes pinch. It's YOUR life, be your own woman. I still have some things to say, can't remember now... but I'm still very much around. *hugs* Salams Amal.. love your new blog! Sorry I haven’t been a good friend, I didn’t write you as I promised, but a lot of things have been going on with me. You’ve been in my heart and prayers, I want you to know that.

IT’s true life is full of ups and down, with the sweet comes the bitter. It’s what we do when the ‘bitters’ come around that tests the stuff we’re made of.

People will give you all sorts of advice. All I’ll say is to do lots of Istikharah, Insha ‘Allah, He’ll see you through. You know what you’re going through, YOU know where the shoes pinch. It’s YOUR life, be your own woman.

I still have some things to say, can’t remember now… but I’m still very much around. *hugs*

]]> By: Bubbles http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-33 Bubbles Sun, 03 Feb 2008 22:42:15 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-33 @ Stinger, if you have a better alternative to remaining an in unhappy relationship please share them with her. You said she should think about her child... then you advice her not to leave for his sake, what about hers? I'm just curious. @ Stinger, if you have a better alternative to remaining an in unhappy relationship please share them with her.

You said she should think about her child… then you advice her not to leave for his sake, what about hers?

I’m just curious.

]]> By: stinger http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-32 stinger Sun, 03 Feb 2008 15:26:33 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-32 Don't leave him. :/ For his sake... Don’t leave him. :/ For his sake…

]]> By: Amina Ae Sook http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/2008/01/31/feeling-not-so-good/#comment-31 Amina Ae Sook Sat, 02 Feb 2008 16:51:38 +0000 http://benevolence85.wordpress.com/?p=5#comment-31 Decision, decision, decisions - life is all about decisions but they can go either way. Decision, decision, decisions – life is all about decisions but they can go either way.

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